Who Are You When All Is
Stripped Away?
You've spent years providing. Building. Carrying everyone else's weight. Somewhere along the way, the animal inside you went to sleep.
This is where he wakes up.
Jun 13 - Jun 19 2026 | Valley Center, California
12 3 Spots Left
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What is The Spirit Of A Man?
Men today do not have a rite of passage.
We have been trained to be polite, to be nice, and to make sure everybody around us feels safe.
The expense of this societal dogma for many men is that we have lost our spine, our bellies, and our primal essence. We are left feeling domesticated and disconnected from our wild.
Digital addiction and stimulation takes us further and further away from our animal instincts & from our soul essence.
We create 'alpha' or 'machismo' characters and facades to feel tough and strong, because we have lost touch with our deep nature.
We lean on our accomplishments, our money, or our status to feel proud.
What would life be like without resting on your money and status to feel safe and whole?
What would it feel like to meet the world unprotected, unguarded, & present for everything.
Who are you when all is stripped away? Not interested in finding out now? Good luck at death. Life is but a preparation for death.
Take a seat in the wild with a circle of men. Leave your cell phone and bank account behind.
One is left with the demons of his mind. The wounds in the heart. And the vulnerability of being a human being.
Same guts, same cuts, same crazy.
This container will be a great equalizer.
You may feel safe in your ego but it is resting on a house of cards.
Can you find your edge and surf it? Can you find your center and sit in it through all turbulence?
Learn to be still, present, and clear through all adversity and confrontation.
Learn to be loving and open hearted.
Learn to be fierce.
Learn to penetrate to the core of another human being.
Learn how to energetically and psychologically spar with one another.
This is the Spirit of a Man.
The Spirit Of A Man Is For Successful, Driven Men Who Are Done Pretending
We get 100+ applications per retreat. We accept 12.
If you feel fear, tension, excitement... listen to that. That's usually the sign that this is exactly what you need.
This Is For Men Who:
This Is NOT For Men Who:
What Men Say Most Often:
"I feel like myself again." "Maybe for the first time."
You're Told You're Too Much And Not Enough... At The Same Time
When you do your best with what you've got, you're still told you're wrong by the world.
You're told you're too much.
So what did you do?
You hold space for your wife's feelings, your kids' needs, your team's problems...
You hold and you hold...
But who holds space for you?
When was the last time someone looked at you and said:
"I can handle all of you. The parts you hide because you're ashamed. The parts you've never let anyone see. Bring it all. I'm not going anywhere."
Probably never.
The Shifts Men Report After The Retreat:
You feel grounded. Present. Connected to your intuition (your “belly”).
Your posture changes, you stand taller and you’re firmer in who you are. Your breathing changes.
People in your life will experience you differently and ask you what’s changed…
Decisions come easier because you're not operating from fear or lack anymore.
Your sensations are back online and you cansmell bullshit from a mile away.
Bigger and better deals/partnerships close faster because your certainty is palpable.
You stop forcing life and things start to flow more…
Life starts to feel like it’s happening for you rather than to you.
Your partner will say something along the lines of "something feels different about you…"
Intimacy becomes transformative and expansive… It’s no longer a chore or a performance you have to put on.
You can confidently meet your spouse with all the parts of you that you used to hide, without losing her or yourself in the process…
And you’ll feel like the man she chose and fell in love with back in the days.
You become the present, supportive, patient parent you’ve always wanted to be…
And your kids will notice it, growing closer and closer to you with every day that passes.
The God-sized hole you’ve been trying to fill is no longer there.
You no longer chase money, achievements or acknowledgement for validation…
Because you already feel rich, capable, and worthy of all the admiration in the world without all those things…
As a result, you start attracting more wealth and opportunities.
You step into a paradigm where abundance flows to you every single day…
And you live from a place of wholeness, not lack or need.
There are three primary practices.
The only thing that matters is how you show up in this moment, under real pressure.
Your shadows and wounds will surface.
Your blind spots and weaknesses will be revealed.
The ways you perform, manipulate, avoid... all of them will be exposed.
You won't be able to think or perform your way through it.
This is where the animal inside you starts to wake up.
Fear, trauma, pain, anger, sadness, etc… everything is somatically released from your core so you can resolve everything within you.
Some activate states most people need substances to reach.
You’ll get direct access to parts of yourself your conscious mind has been protecting you from for years or decades.
With this practice, you’ll be able to:
- Trust your gut again.
- Make 10x better decisions
- Have a stronger bullsh*t detector around people
- Know exactly what’s right or wrong for you
You’ll walk into any room and FEEL what's actually happening beneath the surface.
The Retreat Center
40 Acres in Valley Center, California
Outdoor Pool, Cold-Plunge, Yoga Studio
No phones. No distractions.
Private chef who prepares clean, nourishing food.
Natural cold plunges in the hot springs up in the mountains.
Time between sessions for your downloads to integrate.
Meet Your Facilitators
I was the 2010 Brazilian Jiu Jitsu World Champion & the 2012 Pan American Champion. In 2013, after years of competitive BJJ and successfully working in corporate America, I became extremely mentally and physically ill. I traveled around the world for 4 years, spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on doctors, shamans & healers (I even lived in the Amazon jungle for 9 months and drank ayahuasca 31 times!) and eventually healed myself through the power of detoxification, shadow-work & spiritual techniques that I learned from the countless teachers I had.. Now I work with high performers to help them heal, awaken & find their primal power.
Fast forward to 2021, I was in Tulum Mexico with a beautiful girlfriend. 7 figures in the bank. I set my life up so that I could do whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted. I was my own boss and I had very little restrictions and responsibilities in my life. All of this freedom made me fucking miserable. Idle hands make the devil’s workshop. I was missing a tribe. I was missing people calling forth my highest self and demanding the best of me. I was missing my wild. Lions in the wild are in their prime. I was in a zoo (and you are too). So I created The Spirit of a Man to help men find their primal energy, surf their edge, and train for battle. It is a Shamanic, psychological, & primal experience that is something I wished I had all these years.
About the Facilitators
Co-facilitator of Spirit of a Man
International yoga teacher, embodiment coach, creative entrepreneur, yoga model & athlete.
Head Chef
Assistant and Sous Chef
You Weren't Raised Into Manhood. You Were Trained Out Of Yourself.
When you were young, there was something wild in you.
An animal with a killer instinct and an insatiable desire for life.
You carried a certain rawness and filterlessness in how you moved through the world.
That part of you didn't wait for permission.
It didn't apologize for being authentic.
And it didn't shrink to make others comfortable.
It wanted what it wanted and said what it meant.
That same energy translates in adult men into what I call “the belly”.
It’s your deep gut feeling, your primal center that has the ability to guide you, protect you, and drive you forward in alignment with your soul-purpose.
It's where the animal inside you lives.
But it’s been trained out of you because of all the warnings like:
"Be nice." "Be polite." "Control yourself."
Every time you got the message that your full expression wasn't welcome, a piece of that animal went into hiding.
And you adapted.
You learned to provide, achieve things the average person can’t, and do everything society says makes you a "good man."
Masculinity Isn’t About What You Do...
It’s About The Depth of Your Presence Around Others.
If You Know, You Know
You've read this far for a reason.
Something in you recognizes this.
You've held everything for everyone.
It's time to be held.
IMPORTANT ADDITIONAL INFORMATION
● The retreat will begin at 3pm on June 13, 2026 and end at 12pm on June 19, 2026.
● Arrival the day before the retreat (if you are flying into California) is mandatory. If you miss your flight or your flight is delayed and you miss the opening orientation, you cannot come to the retreat.
● The retreat will be a complete digital detox. Some exceptions can be made for essential checking of emails / phone calls.
● The best airports to fly into will be LAX or SAN.
● There will be 2-4 men in each bedroom. It is a shared bedroom experience.
● Payment plans are available for those who request.
● Cost of transportation to and from the retreat center is paid for by the participant. (this will be split amongst the group). However all transportation during the retreat is included.
● We will have a cold plunge!
● Participant will need to be able to sit on meditation cushion for long periods of time.
● All meals and lodging are included with the retreat ticket price.
● This retreat will not cure, heal, treat, or diagnose any medical conditions.
● All payments are non-refundable.
